Girl, you cannot change him…

Ladies, in a relationship, the only way to get your man to change is to completely accept him and respect him as he is.  Trying to control your man- will only push him away. You have to trust that it is not about you, it is about that man’s journey through life and the choices he makes.  We all have our crosses to bear.  None of this is about us. It is about how our life grows us spiritually and how our journey fits into the puzzle called life.

With that being said, I do not want to get to deep on you. Ladies, if you constantly find yourself rationalizing his behavior, displacing your anger on those around you, telling yourself that your bad behavior is something everyone else does, or even believing that marriage or babies will fix things, something may be wrong with your relationship.  It comes down to one thing, do you have peace.  Is your relationship a place of refuge, tranquility, companionship, trust, freedom, harmony, collaboration, and nonviolence? Yes we all have our differences to deal with, disagreements will occur, however if you have no peace, something is wrong.

Food for thought…

You cannot change him.

Your love cannot change him.

The time you put into the relationship will not change him.

Only a higher power can change him.

You can only change yourself- and even you need help to do that!