Tips On How To Deal With Life When Everything Becomes Too Much
You may be well aware of the times when your life feels like a great failure, and you just cannot handle it anymore. I know this feeling very well and it really sucks. I have gone through these events too many times to remember, and even though it may feel like you are about to really lose all control over your life, the way in which you approach things can result in everything falling to pieces or finding a way to handle things.
Read this article from the New York Meditation Center about adapting to life’s demands.
Here are a few useful tips that might assist you in dealing with life’s harsh blows.
- Ride The Wave
It may really feel like all hope is lost right now. But things will improve, this is just the way life works. So ride this wave, and acknowledge that you are feeling certain emotions as they arise. Trying to avoid those negative feelings or telling yourself they need to disappear is only going to make your situation worse. You need to allow yourself to really feel those uncomfortable emotions when you are facing a time that is difficult in your life. It is important to feel and connect with these negative emotions so that you can move past them.
- Avoid Blowing Everything Out Of Proportion
There is a line between being aware of your difficult situation and slipping into a state of despair, where you become hooked into constantly replaying in your mind how awful everything is. You may have already noticed that you will often feel even worse after complaining to a close friend about how hard your life has become. This type of negative venting usually enhances and enforces the feelings of depression, anxiety, and anger towards what is going on in your life, instead of breaking this cycle by knowing that your situation is not ideal, but you are focused on moving past this stage. It will not help you in any way to stay trapped in the thought patterns of how unfortunate and unfair that so many negative things are happening at the same time. Accepting that these things are happening in your life at the moment, but knowing that things can only improve from here, will help you to get out of that stagnant state of negativity.
- Believe In Your Own Abilities
During the hardest times in your life, it becomes easy to become laser-focused on how hard everything has become and to disregard your self-efficacy. If you think you are not able to deal with what is going on, this is usually what will play out. Your thoughts are incredibly powerful, and self-efficacy feelings are associated with how you think about yourself and your situation. It is important to look back on things that you have already dealt with in your life, even when they seem insignificant at this moment. We might not be able to control situations that come our way, but we have full control over how to respond to each one.
- Acknowledge The Moment
Rather than overreacting or overthinking everything, accept that this is where your life is at this moment. With this acceptance, you provide a way for your mind to start thinking about solutions as opposed to revisiting the problem over and over again. Once your mind has calmed down, try to approach your problem by dealing with one step at a time. If you continue to look at your problem as something so big that you cannot face it, you will just stress yourself out even further.
It may feel tempting to hide under a blanket and try to forget about everything during a complex time in your life, but it very important that you resist this urge. Rather read over this advice again, and the tips will probably help you to deal with the stress in your life using a much better approach.